~"in this dirty minded world, you are either someone's wife or someone's whore"
~"...my life is a reading list"
~"it is your responsibility to find fault with me, it is mine to hear you out. but don't expect me to change" (a prayer for owen meany)
~"it's natural to want someone you love to do what you want, or what you think would be good for them, but you have to let everything happen to them. you can't interfere with people you love any more than you're supposed to initerfere with people you don't even know. and that's hard,..., because you often feel like interfering-you want to be the one who makes the plans"
~"if you don't feel that you are possibly on the edge of humiliating yourself, of losing control of the whole thing, then probably what you are doing isn't very vital"